A dating expert has shared her controversial opinion on who should pay for a first date – and her answer is sure to ruffle a few feathers.
The woman, who shares dating advice on TikTok under the name @ask.nelly, claims men should never split the bill on a first date, especially if they were the one that made the first move.
In a recent clip, she explained her thoughts in more detail, captioning the post: “I said what I said.”
“Men should never let a woman pay for a first date because if you’re asking a girl out and then going dutch, it just shows you’re cheap,” Nelly proclaims in the video.
She continues to say that as well as making you look cheap, it can also make you seem as if you “weren’t raised right”, “not chivalrous” or “you’re dating outside of your price range”.
“By that I mean you’re taking a girl out on a date you can’t afford to do, so instead of trying to flex on a nice dinner, you’re better off taking her on a picnic in the park.
“And even the most progressive girls who insist they split it with you and say they don’t mind… do mind.
“Not because they can’t afford it, but because it shows us your character and if you’re a girl and you’ve paid for first dates, I want to tell you that he ain’t it sis.”
Nelly’s video has since been viewed more than 83,000 times and garnered thousands of likes and comments.
Her take on paying on a date divided users, with some agreeing with her but others thinking it was old-fashioned.
One person replied: “As a man that likes to show how much of a provider I am, I’ll take a girl to a picnic at the park if I have no money, over dinner at a restaurant.”
Another said: “Lol what? It’s 2021. Whoever asks the other person out should pay for the date.”
Someone else wrote: “I would rather pay for myself. Then there are no ‘expectations’.”
“I personally most of the time pay, but if she doesn’t offer to at least split the bill, there’s no second date,” admitted a different user.
“Expecting a man to pay means you think your time is more valuable than his. It’s not,” argued a fifth.
A sixth added: “Am I the only woman who always either pays for the first date or splits it and would never let a man pay? It makes me uncomfortable when people pay.”