When it comes to weddings, they are often thought of as elegant affairs and many couples choose not to invite children to their special day for fear they might spoil it.
One bride-to-be has allowed little ones to attend her wedding and told how her sister, the maid of honour, is expecting a baby a few weeks before the occasion.
Naturally, she expects the newborn to be there on the big day, but she was hoping her sister would let her husband hold the infant while performing her duties as part of the wedding party.
However, according to a post on Reddit’s Am I The A**hole forum, the sister refuses to hand the baby over and instead plans to carry her son down the aisle and hold him at the altar – and says she’ll even breastfeed right then and there if she has to.
The bride is understandably quite worried about this distracting her guests on the big day and wants to know if she’s in the wrong for asking her sister not to do this.
Her post read: “I am getting married at the end of July 2021 My sister is my matron of honour and she’s currently pregnant with her fourth child. Her due date is a few weeks before my wedding and I could not be more excited to meet my new nephew.
“However, she has been making some comments that are a bit worrying to me.
“She has repeatedly told me that she is going to hold her new baby as she walks down the aisle, regardless of my thoughts (despite the fact that her husband will be at the wedding and able to hold the baby).
“She plans to hold her baby during the ceremony and even feed him if she needs to.”
The bride goes on to say that she’s not having a long wedding, it’s outdoors and the ceremony should only take around 20 minutes – so not too long for her sister to be apart from the baby.
“I told her she should feel welcome to have her new little baby with her during the day while we are getting ready, but when it comes to walking down the aisle, I would not like her to be holding the baby,” she continues.
“The baby could cry, poop, need to eat, etc. etc. She has insisted that she will be holding her baby during the wedding – otherwise she will not be in the wedding.”
To make matters worse, the sister has also threatened to tell people the bride is a “bad aunt” in her wedding speech or get her children to “object” in the middle of the wedding if she isn’t allowed to hold her baby.
The bride adds: “I think she is trying to be funny, but all of these comments are frustrating and hurting my feelings.
“AITA for telling my sister she can’t hold her baby during my wedding?”
Hundreds of people have responded to the post, with many taking the bride’s side.
One person replied: “NTA. You should probably remove her from the wedding party if not the whole wedding because it sounds like she plans to make your day about her in one way or another.”
Another said: “Given her threats about the speech and objecting to the wedding, I’d disinvite her from everything. She and her kids can stay home.”
A third wrote: “It sounds like she’s dead set on whipping her boob out in front of everyone and then admonishing anyone who gets offended because she absolutely HAS to nourish her child in the middle of her sister’s vows while all her friends and family are watching. She 100% wants to make this event all about her and her baby.
“NTA. Kick her out of your wedding party and tell the officiant that you won’t be asking for objections. Then make it clear to your sister that if she wants to start some sh*t to gain attention you’ll ask her to leave and will cut off contact with her.”